Now, it’s certainly been noted that the three times that Damon and Elena mutually kissed the word ‘go’ was in the title of all three songs that played over the scenes –
2.22 “As I Lay Dying” – I Should Go
3.10 “The New Deal” – Holding On and Letting Go
3.19 “Heart of Darkness” – Never Let Me Go
In fact, someone tweeted Julie Plec about this and she responded that she hadn’t noticed that coincidence. I believe coincidence is absolutely correct with all three songs. But not in two of them, namely the two songs in season 03. Sure, all three include ‘go,’ but one of them (“I Should Go”) is purely about the physical act of leaving the other person’s presence. The other two aren’t just about going. It’s not the action verb in those two songs. In the ones played during the kisses in “The New Deal” and “Heart of Darkness” the action verb is letting go.
While there is obviously a series long arc on display with this show, just as obviously the seasons are designed to build and connect smaller arcs and themes. In 3.10, when Damon and Elena truly kissed – just because – for the first time, the refrain of the song was holding on and letting go. Based on what was happening at that point in the show, the ‘holding on’ certainly appeared to reference Damon and the ‘letting go’ was about Stefan. Fast-forward to 3.19 and the song playing over Damon and Elena’s bed-conversation and hot and heavy make-out session was “Never Let Me Go.” And this time it was the opposite of the 3.10 refrain about Stefan. Whereas that step indicated it was time for Elena to let go of Stefan, here it was begging for Damon to never let her go.
Bringing us to 3.22: In that episode, Elena was told by her mother that she knew it was time to let Matt go and Elena in remembering that advice used those words when saying goodbye to Damon. That HAD to have been deliberate. The fact that both songs in season 03 used the theme of ‘letting go’ had to tie in with Elena’s use and – I think – misuse of them in “The Departed.”
Think about it. In 3.10, the song is telling us that it’s time for Elena to Stefan go as she’s kissing Damon. But being Elena she holds onto what she should do – ie, stick with Stefan. And what happened in that flashback with her mother’s advice. Elena knew that it was time to let go of Matt but she wasn’t able to let go of the idea of what love ‘should be’ and of what she ‘should’ do, ie., be with the boy she was supposed to grow up and spend the rest of her life with. It took Damon to help wake her up to what she truly wanted … and then a huge, life-changing event, her parent’s death, to make her finally let go of what she should and go for what she wanted (breaking free from the expected romantic relationship with Matt).
Now look at 3.19, when with Damon, finally giving into what she wanted with him, the lyrics pleaded with him to never let her go. Again, jump forward to 3.22 and we have Elena once again holding on to what she believes love ‘should be’ and what she ‘should’ do, ie., stick it out with Stefan and stay true to him as she promised instead of doing what she wanted … taking that leap.
So I think in season 04 what we’re going to see is Damon once again being the one who helps her to wake up to what she truly wants (him). Of course, that awakening will be aided by this new, huge life-changing event, vamping out. How the theme of ‘letting go’ was used in relation to Stefan, and especially Damon, in those songs played during the Damon/Elena kisses paired with Elena telling Damon she was letting him go in the finale signaled to me that one of things we’re going to get is Elena realizing that no matter how she tries, no, she can not let Damon go. Not by a long shot.
Hmm, I hope that made sense, LOL!